tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post677775327545744306..comments2023-11-03T06:02:27.147-06:00Comments on Family By Divine Design:: Monday Musings: Stay-at-home Mom vs. Working MomRaree (RAH-ree)http://www.blogger.com/profile/15369660765312878949noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-6257512982379583512013-10-14T21:05:14.190-06:002013-10-14T21:05:14.190-06:00So true, Terrianne. I have zero desire to work whi...So true, Terrianne. I have zero desire to work while raising my children as well. Low on luxuries, but well-endowed with peace in my choices. :)Raree (RAH-ree)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15369660765312878949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-74666272371652121312013-10-14T19:22:32.814-06:002013-10-14T19:22:32.814-06:00I enjoyed, this, Rachael. I think the phrase "...I enjoyed, this, Rachael. I think the phrase "If the mamma ain't happy, ain't no one happy" is very true. While I have seen many women work outside the home and also raise young children and seem to do both things well, I would not have been able to. Why? Because I really did not want to. Like REALLY not. More than anything, I wanted to be an at-home mom, so we made that happen, though it required much sacrifice. Gerald always worked two jobs (still does, so I can mostly stay home, even though my youngest is 13), and we did not have many luxuries. We were married 12 years before were able to buy our first house. But I don't regret one second of the time I had home with my children. I would have been so unhappy any other way, and "if the mamma ain't happy...."Terriannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819043854393137584noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-54521723932365983632013-10-14T16:35:05.429-06:002013-10-14T16:35:05.429-06:00Great comment and great post of your own! I really...Great comment and great post of your own! I really enjoyed Matt Walsh's article as well. He articulated really well just how valuable mothers are. SAHMs have these things as their sole responsibility; working moms will end up leaving some of that to others, but they still do plenty of it themselves! Moms of all kinds are awesome.Raree (RAH-ree)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15369660765312878949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-32830715633975300042013-10-14T16:05:37.448-06:002013-10-14T16:05:37.448-06:00I had so much to say on this subject so I decided ...I had so much to say on this subject so I decided to write a blog post of my own. I borrowed bits and pieces of what you said. You can read my additional thought here: http://caranna.blogspot.com/2013/10/being-sahm.html<br />Carannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942020497675908407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-52897450417542333052013-10-14T14:36:49.504-06:002013-10-14T14:36:49.504-06:00I read and enjoyed the article written on "Th...I read and enjoyed the article written on "The Matt Walsh Blog." I felt empowered and justified as a SAHM when I read: <br />"Yes, my wife is JUST a mother. JUST. She JUST brings forth life into the universe, and she JUST shapes and molds and raises those lives. She JUST manages, directs and maintains the workings of the household, while caring for children who JUST rely on her for everything. She JUST teaches our twins how to be human beings, and, as they grow, she will JUST train them in all things, from morals, to manners, to the ABC’s, to hygiene, etc. She is JUST my spiritual foundation and the rock on which our family is built. She is JUST everything to everyone. And society would JUST fall apart at the seams if she, and her fellow moms, failed in any of the tasks I outlined."<br />It's unfortunate that our society has gone in such a direction that moms feel they have to defend their choice to be a "stay at home mom". If you choose to stay at home you are often viewed as unambitious and lazy. I may not be the perfect homemaker. I fall behind on dishes and laundry. My bathroom isn't always clean and often times it hits 6pm and I still have no idea what I'm making for dinner. You may not be able to measure what I have accomplished in tasks, but what I have given my children is worth more. <br />I have the best job in the world. Rewarding, beautiful, sacred and exhausting. Carannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02942020497675908407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-33712690670699366092013-10-14T13:47:56.846-06:002013-10-14T13:47:56.846-06:00Thanks for clarifying. :) And, yes exactly to your...Thanks for clarifying. :) And, yes exactly to your last sentence in your first comment! There are plenty of things that we women feel we need to beat ourselves up about without beating each other up.Raree (RAH-ree)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15369660765312878949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-44345111582776718882013-10-14T13:26:55.339-06:002013-10-14T13:26:55.339-06:00(sorry this is my husbands account...oops! This is...(sorry this is my husbands account...oops! This is Emily)Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14362132622979239085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-783237695649670921.post-72619737219277029612013-10-14T13:26:32.466-06:002013-10-14T13:26:32.466-06:00I'm like you! I am nervous to comment on artic...I'm like you! I am nervous to comment on articles like that because I don't want to offend someone. Its such a touchy subject. I loved that article! One of my facebook friends posted an article about how Utah is worst for women in the workplace and in leadership positions and how awful that was. I was thinking, I AM THE LEADER for most things in my home! It is the hardest job I have ever done. But I didn't want to comment because I was afraid of offending this woman (who lives on my street). I just like to think that everyone is doing the best they can. And I never judge someone for choosing to work, I just hope they don't judge me in return for staying home.Nathanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14362132622979239085noreply@blogger.com